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Three Things You “Own”

February 21, 2016 by Dr. Katen

Lessons from “The Ownership Yard”

This post is taken from my book “The Ownership Yard.” http://www.amazon.com/The-Ownership-Y…Read an excerpt from Chapter 1

There are three things in your life that you have total control over and, thus, “own.”

You own your:
1. Thoughts
2. Feelings
3. Actions

You do not (and cannot) own others’:
1. Thoughts
2. Feelings
3. Actions

Makes sense, right? Easy enough.

At the beginning of this chapter is a drawing of a house. Imagine you are the house.

Only what you can control is in your yard. In your yard are your thoughts, feelings, and actions. These are the three things in life that you truly own. No one can steal them. No one can use them. No one can borrow, destroy, or control them. Because you own your thoughts, feelings, and actions, you also own the consequences – both good and bad.

Outside your yard are other people’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. Who owns other people’s thoughts, feelings, and actions? You got it! They do.

Everyone owns their thoughts, feelings, and actions, as well as the consequences – both good and bad. You cannot own other people’s thoughts, feelings, and actions. You cannot steal them. You cannot borrow them. You cannot destroy them. And, you cannot control them.”

Check out Amazon to see more of the book!
http://www.amazon.com/The-Ownership-Y…
Thanks for reading and let your garden grow!
–Dr. Katen

©2014 Katrina Katen. All rights reserved. Feel free to republish so long as credit is given.

Category: Dr. Katen's Blog, Successful LivingTag: successful living, The Ownership Yard
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